The Parents’ School at private, bilingual Yago School in Seville aims to be a space of information, training and reflection addressed to parents, on aspects related to their essential role as educators.
In this regard, last Thursday, February 2nd at 17:15 a successful session under the title, “How to educate happy and emotionally strong children“, by the psychologist Nuria de Andrés took place.
Emotional intelligence is that ability that allows us to control our emotions and express them assertively. It is the set of capacities that a person has to resolve conflicts with themselves and others. Through it we manage to motivate ourselves, control our impulses, regulate moods and empathise with others. It allows us not only to live with those around us, but to prosper and be happy.
Nuria de Andrés, in a direct, close and spontaneous way, offered us the keys to how to educate the emotional intelligence of our children, since it can be educated and we must do it from when they are small. The sensitive period of emotional intelligence is at 2 and a half years, has a turning point at 7 and is exhausted at 12. This type of intelligence is learned at home, since children learn by imitation of their role models, their parents, therefore “we learn to be happy at home“.
How can we help educate children’s emotional intelligence?
- Always educating positively.
- Being demanding, but with affection. “Challenged child, happy adult”
- Teaching them to recognise their feelings.
- Guiding them to learn to control their negative feelings.
- It is important that they know their strengths.
- It’s also important that they understand the feelings of others, and are empathetic.
- Making them think. When they do something wrong we must send them to “The Thinking Chair” so that they reflect on and then verbalise it.
- Being intuitive.
- Being leaders. If their parents are not their leaders, who is?
- Motivating them. It is not necessarily good to say that they are the best at something. Nobody is perfect, and we can all improve; it is better to praise and reward effort, so they are always at ease striving to overcome new challenges.
- Not telling them they are right all the time.
- Teaching them to communicate with others through non-verbal communication. (Always look at someone’s face. Looks say a lot. Let’s forget about our mobiles and dedicate some quality time to them.)
- Working on their ability to forgive and ask for forgiveness so they don’t hold grudges.
- Boosting high self esteem. When children feel loved and have clear boundaries they know themselves, are independent and know how to improve their faults. Self-esteem is learned throughout life. We must try to find situations every day in which we feel secure, to reinforce them.
- Teaching them to overcome frustration and to try to finish their activities happy.
- Working on independence with objectives adapted to the child’s age.
Finally, some books were recommended in order to delve into this interesting topic, such as Tony Nadal’s book “TODO SE PUEDE ENTRENAR: Y TODO ESTA AL ALCANCE DE NUESTRO ESFUERZO” or “EDUCAR EN POSITIVO” by Fernando Corominas.
To work with children from Infant up to P3 we recommend reading “MONSTRUO DE COLORES” by Anna Llenas with your children. For parents of children from P4 onwards it is highly advisable to read “EMOCIONARIO” by Cristina Núñez to get a better understanding of the emotions of our children.
At the Yago School, aware as we are of the importance of children’s emotional intelligence, we work on their emotions every day. Recently we have hung up five rolls of coloured paper so we can work on a new emotion each week.
After the success of this presentation we will have Nuria de Andrés back for future editions of our Parents’ School.
We look forward to seeing you all!